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Saturday, August 8, 2020
The Powers That Beat: Only the good die young
The Powers That Beat: Only the good die young: Jason Kutsher was my first love. In 10th grade. He was a senior and went into the Navy Seals. He's dead. Ned was the very first guy I ... got
Sunday, December 22, 2013
Last Writes: Marc Parent Guest Book: share your condolences, read obituary
Marc Parent
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Most Recent to Oldest EntriesJuly 1, 2011
Gone but not forgotten.~M Baldauf,OhioJune 26, 2011
Rest in Peace.~Mehdi Madani,Mill Valley, CaliforniaJune 18, 2011
i started following marc just before the gaza war and moved a lot of his tweets around my networks, so sorry that he is dead and his tweets are gone but i am pleased that he lived through the arab spring.~ernie yacub,courtenay, British ColumbiaJune 16, 2011
Remember
Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.
By Christina Rossetti
The Poetry Foundation~Anne Sagebiel,Denver, ColoradoJune 4, 2011
Dear Marc, your passing came as a shock, only learning of it yesterday. Sadly life goes that way, our lives get crazy and time passes and I had been wondering for weeks, where is MParent? Truly, I will not forget your wisdom, dedication, compassion and fire. You were a shining example, to me, of the absolute best a Twitter person could be. I will miss you and send love to your family. x
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Saturday, December 21, 2013
Last Writes: William Worthington, Jr. RIP
William Henry Worthington Jr., 81, of Moline, passed away Thursday, Dec. 12, 2013 at his residence.
Private family services will be held at Rock Island National Cemetery, Arsenal Island. DeRoo Funeral Home, Moline, is assisting the family. Memorials may be made to the Arkansas Children's Hospital in Little Rock in honor of his grandson, William Johnsson Ashley.
William was born April 5, 1932, in Ogle County, Ill., son of William and Anna Traynor Worthington. He married Sharon G. Jones on April 17, 1976, in Rock Island.
William was a veteran of the Korean War, serving in the Air Force. He worked for and retired from Illinois Bell after a long yet successful battle with cancer in 1981. He enjoyed watching Green Bay Packers football and Chicago White Sox baseball.
William played football and track successfully for Prophetstown High School. He enjoyed motorcycles and motorcycle racing.
Survivors include his wife, Sharon; daughter and son-in-law, Heidi Lore (John Michael) Ashley, Prattsville, Ark.; grandson, William Johnsson Ashley; sisters, Barbara Gray, Chillicothe, Ill., and Sharon Davis, San Antonio, Texas; and brothers, Robert Worthington, Aurora, Ill., and Arthur Worthington, Rock Falls, Ill.
Online condolences may be sent to the family at deroofuneralhome.com.
Online condolences may be sent to the family at deroofuneralhome.com.
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Last Writes: A Letter from Ned Vizzini
UNWRITTEN: Last Writes: A Letter to Ned Vizzini
Unwritten:: A letter to Ned Vizzini
From: “Ned Vizzini”
Hey, sounds like me! I’m headed towards ruin quick. Hope all is well
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From: “Ned Vizzini”
I’m not good, Elyssa. Very depressed. I was such a different person when I knew you. But maybe I will be different soon.
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From "Elyssa D:
god
ned-- I wish we could talk—based upon what I’ve read (what you’ve
posted on line and through your interviews) it seems as though you are
going through all the emotions and emotional chaos that I was
experiencing the first year we met back in new York.
Another
friend of mine just checked himself into a psych ward after a suicide
attempt and I feel so helpless because I care and respect you both so
much.
it is funny because I always thought that
if I could just finish that damn book I was working on ten years ago—or
just finished law school, my PhD. or any number of things—everything
would be okay.
It confuses me because you finished your book—rob finished law school- I finished nothing.
A
few weeks ago, I “lost my shit” so to speak, came across your
interview, and was completely blown away—I used to be the crazy one—now I
have my sanity back but nothing else.
having
been through several crises myself, I came to believe that when you see
someone in crisis, they become so overwhelmed and confused that they do
not know what to do first—and how to dig out of the hole they have dug
for themselves. I decided that rather than asking, I just try to figure
it out and give it to them, no questions asked, no thank you necessary.
How
many people have told you, “Call if you there is anything I can do” and
when you do call—nothing! Nothing but disappointment and regret. So I
have decide never to ask somebody what they need—
Mostly
because they don’t even know themselves— hen I came to the realization a
few weeks ago that my transient existence is so tangential that no one
would notice if I never took another breath—I tried to figure out what I
needed so that I could give it to myself.
So I
started going back through my old journals to see if I could identify
the missing element of my life—you know that “thing” that would both
make it all go away and make all come together so I could be a whole
person again.
That thing is a figment of my imagination. I used to think it was being loved by a man—I had that. Wasn’t it.
Then I thought it was having money. I had that. But that wasn’t it either.
Then I thought it was health insurance—but no, that was not it either.
Then I thought it would be having that oh-so-critical Ivy League degree. I have that. That still wasn't it.
So obviously, none of those things could have been “it.”
The thing I need most, I lost long ago, and that was hope. Perhaps I never really had it at all.
So I guess some things just can’t be bought, learned, earned, or acquired.
I
think of the long twisted road, and I remember one of my favorite
childhood movies, where a girl named Dorothy was so determined to find
her way home after a great storm. Disillusioned and distracted, Dorothy
would not yield to the many obstacles that had been placed in her way.
Determined to meet the great Wizard, she stayed one path.
Yes,
there were detours, obstacles, and the Wicked Witch of the West. Each
of these obstacles may have taken her of course, yet she never once lost
sight of the road home. She believed in one thing, the Wizard, and
his ability to bring her home.
Having great
faith and determination, she never strayed far off the path to
righteousness. Dorothy had a clearly defined goal, a means to get
there, and a bright yellow brick road to guide her. Through her
determination and unyielding faith, Dorothy never once doubted that she
was on the right path.
In the Wizard of Oz, the
yellow brick road may have been the path she was taking, but through her
determination and blind faith, she was able to bring others onto the
road t enlightenment.
The lion found his courage; the tin man got a heart. The scarecrow got some brains—and even Dorothy got what she needed most.
Dorothy
began her journey looking for one thing. She needed to get back to
place she began, and find her way home. Dorothy teaches us a valuable
lesson, but she was lucky enough to know what it was she so desperately
longed for... home.
If all I had to do was click
my heals three times and find my way home, well, sadly I would not even
know where home is. Yes, they say home is where the heart is, and
perhaps that is part of the problem. But for some of us, out childhood
homes were not places of happiness and nostalgia. They are places from
which we run, searching endlessly for that magical place and can only
hope that we have come across a road that is clearly marked to guide us
in our destination.
Of course, we know there will
be that take us off course, and it will up to us to find our way back.
Unfortunately, there is a certain point when we lose our direction and
we lose our faith. As I grew older, I came to realize recognize that my
feeling of detachment went far beyond having a dysfunctional childhood a
broken family life that even my sister and I never lived in the same
house for more than a year or so in the summertime.
So
no matter how long I have been in Nashville, in many ways I am, in fact
still a stranger. I am a stranger because homeless is a state of
mind.
In my mind, I like to think a home is a
place of acceptance, shelter, and a place you can find forgiveness,
comfort and recognition. For most, going home means to reconnect in a
way so that you are reminded that you have something, someone, who will
always have your back.
Homer represents more than
a structure; it represents a strong foundation that will always be
there whenever you need to feel safety and comfort. For me safety is
marked by the boundaries that are supposed to keep me safe and
protected.
So this is my home. I don’t
necessarily feel safe here, but I do feel consistent. I do not have to
worry that I will be forced to switch schools, neighbors or friends
every six months just because my parents could not get it right. What
they failed to realize is just how very wrong it really was. Changing
schools, changing friends, changing siblings; changing myself just
enough each time so that I could fit in. But after 16 years of constant
change, I never got the opportunity to find out anything real about
myself. Even my name was changed when I moved--- dad called me Liz, and
my mother called herself any number of last names as she desperately
tried to hold on to her youth, her beauty, and delusional fantasies of
entitlement and sacrifice that I think she may actually believe.
I
have never had plastic surgery, could not afford it anyway, but what do
have is a clear memory, vivid nightmares, and a place of my own. What I
also realize, is that until I can live free from fear and dependence, I
will never truly be able to know what it feels like to be at home. If
home is where the heart is, then homelessness is clearly just a state of
mind. And today I have some hope that I might someday no longer feel
just as homeless at home. So now I know more than ever, that
homelessness is a far more than a concrete structure or family
property.
I will always feel a little homeless at
home. It is knowing that you are the thing that remains
constant—regardless of any dreams I may have, I will never have the
constant I would need to get bring a child into this world--- as much I
would like to.
I envy those who feel they
have so much in their lives that they can trust without any reservation
that the world is a loving enough place they want to share with a child.
Especially a child of their own. No, my mother told me long, long time
ago, that I can never have children.
She
also told me last year, that I could not have a dog. My own mother does
not think I am capable of raising a puppy. Maybe she’s right. She did
put her fears into action when she once donated my cat of 14 years to
the animal shelter under someone else name so that I truly was left
without any ties to the condo I stayed in for a few short months while I
tried to come up with a plan to take him and myself far from a place
where we could be safe and live free.
I
adopted him back from the animal shelter 40 miles out after learning
that she had used someone else’s name at the agency so I could not find
him on my own.
I will not look elsewhere to find the essentials things healthy children receive that in turn makes them healthy adults.
I
will never be “healthy” but I do think I wish I could give more than
what I have received. I regret never being the kind of “community
member" I think I could have been, and I doubt I will get over the sheer
humiliation of having to love this way for so many years when I should
have been doing so much more.
in having truly been
able to do the great things for society that I believe I could, but I
can’t regret not giving no longer need constant reassurance,
recognition, or validation, but I will always question whether things
could have been different if only one person had taken the time to show
me I was worth it. That I deserved more than what I could actually
afford and realize that I do give so much in so many other ways.
The
ways that people cannot calculate or see just how badly the ones who
received them needed those gifts. It was the little things. It was
Kody, it was Desiree, but above all else, it was me setting goals, the
feelings of that my feeling I would never and was no longer subject to
bi-annual custody disputes and shifts and us to realize that
homelessness is merely a state of mind.
Where would I go? 10 years “down the road” and now, more than ever, I realize I am truly and deeply, “homeless at home.”
You
see it is not so much that I doubt myself, I just don’t trust that
people will not do horrible things even if that means doing nothing at
all.
I do have much love to give. Actually too
much. So much that it often pours out of me in inappropriate
sentimentality. I know when I need to keep to myself, and I know when
my anxieties starts to make others a little anxious. I know because as I
see you react to me be anxious, it only makes me that much worse. It is
one of my worst, but at times sometimes, that sensitivity is also at
times a wonderful attribute and god given gift.
But
should that prevent me from getting out into the world just because
other people think I should be don’t like me … that’s not my job.
I
have spent more than half of my life in self-imposed isolation, and the
other half wondering how I can be less annoying and high strung so
others would want me around. The sad truth is, yes, I am annoying, but
also, I am perceptive and very aware.
Sometimes I do it purpose.
I
should not have to live in isolation because I have nervous tics or
sometimes say the wrong thing. But regardless of what people seem to
think about welfare recipients being lazy bums guess what—FUCK you right
back. I have chosen to keep to myself just in case I really am so
horrible to be around and my parents were right. Even my own mother
thinks I would be better off dead.
and the rest is still unwritten...
Elyssa D. Durant, Ed.M. © 2008-2013
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